I like to consider myself a “Future Self-Help Guru.”

Okay, confession time. 

I’m a huge pop psychology nerd. 

Myers-Briggs is my area of (thoroughly non-professional, thoroughly non-academic) expertise, but pretty much any philosophy that encourages introspection, self awareness and self improvement is a-ok in my books. (I’ve also dabbled in enneagrams, socionics, Strengthsfinder, and had significant training in OAD.)

Too often I think people like to use these “personality tests” as a way to put themselves in a box and make excuses for their bad behaviour. This is missing the point. They’re losing out on a powerful tool to take ownership of who they are, identify their strengths and use those strengths to leverage their weaknesses. 

We are who we are. We should strive to be authentically ourselves at all times… but that doesn’t mean that we can’t learn about ourselves and learn to be more. Learn to be the best, fullest version of ourselves. 

I feel as though I’m venturing into over-saturated territory with this topic, but it’s something I that feel strongly about and that I have a lot of thoughts on. And something I’d like to write more about. If you’re reading this and you’re interested in this stuff too, and you’d be interested in reading more in this area, leave me a like or a comment to let me know. 

Or don’t and I’ll probably just keep writing about it anyway, because I’m an INFP and this is my blog and I do what I want. HAH. 

Like I am seriously baffled by this

You know how some guys/”bros” when they greet each other, they do that bro hug/handshake? And sometimes the handshake has like 4 different components. And as far as I can see, every handshake with every pair of guys is different. 

How does this work? How do you know what thing to do? Is it improvised on the spot? Do you telegraph it to each other somehow? Does the one who asserts his personal handshake become the alpha? If you do the wrong thing, do you fail the test? How do you know which thing??

I would never know which thing.